No matter how hard I try to take pictures that capture the beauty and energy of my travels, and no matter how beautiful the area, I can’t seem to do it. Pictures don’t pick up on the subtle nuances, the play of colors, the reflections of light… unless you have an amazing camera at the perfect time of the day and at the perfect angle. Even then, the soul of the space can be elusive.
It’s the Same In Relationships
The emotions and beliefs that drive each of us are so subtle, so nuanced, and so under-the-surface that one can be experiencing reactions and emotions for seemingly no reason. For example, I mentioned in a social media post February 18th about a conversation I overheard at a campfire that reminded me of a time in my life I used to question really little things my partner was doing.
Why Am I Questioning?
“Are you sure you added enough seasoning?” “Is it time to check the steak on the grill?” “Don’t you think that adding the garlic now will make it burn?”
I Thought I was Being Curious and Helpful
I did not realize what I was doing at the time, even after I had a partner call me out on it. “Why are you always questioning what I’m doing?” he asked. I told him I was just trying to learn. Which, in a way, I was.
I was aware enough at the time to know that I didn’t get why people were doing things different, and that there may be ‘better’ ways to do something than what I had learned.
The True Picture
Underlying the questioning was a subtle worry and anxiety nagging me that it “wasn’t the right way” or that something would get wrecked or the flavors wouldn’t be as great. It may be good that way, but wouldn’t it be better if it was done this way?
Looking back I think, does it really even matter?
The Great Chili Experiment
I made chili for one of my parties and a chef that attended commented, “You toasted the spices first, didn’t you?” I was stunned he could taste the difference. He tole me he was impressed. I didn’t toast spices for the chef; I did it to be fun and to see if I could tell the difference. Yet on some other days when my partner made dinner I would hover, thinking it wouldn’t be as good if he didn’t do (insert whatever action I was anxious about that day.)
What Drives You (That Drives Others Nuts?)
So what drives you in a relationship (familial, friend, professional, or intimate) that causes disharmony? Picture the last time you were anxious or upset about something little. What creates that little bit of dis-ease inside your body or brain? What are you are personally sensitive to about what your partner is doing, and where may that come from? Often what we are sensitive to in others reflects our own insecurities, belief systems, or judgements within our selves.
The Emotional Disharmony Can Clear
Using EFT Tapping to remove those worries, habits, or beliefs will not take away your personality or prevent you from speaking your truth. It’s like wiping the fingerprints off your camera lens so your picture is crystal clear. It is healthy and important to feel all of your emotions. It’s good for each of us to be challenged, to question others, to learn from observation and experience, and to have differences of opinion. But it’s also empowering to slow down, be patient, and observe.
Are Your Emotions Bringing You Closer to Happiness?
However, if you find yourself interfering, judging, jealous, irritated, or critical instead of curious, open, playful, and accepting with those you care about or must work with, I can help you. Picture your ideal level of communication in a relationship. EFT can help you navigate feelings that may be lying under the surface. You can step into your highest and most honest level of communication in a way that serves both you and the person you are communicating with.
Sex. The word alone brings up different images, ideas, and belief systems for everyone. Perhaps you are singing a George Michael song in your head now.
Or maybe you are thinking about playfulness, connection, and love. Others are thinking of embarrassment, shame, religion, trauma, or manipulation. Sex can be equated with power or equality, connection or separation.
Perhaps you have images of lengthy, slow, explorative, sensual, erotic tantric sessions or lively, exciting, powerful, sweaty, screaming, vigorous experiences. Awkward first explorations or easy synergistic rhythms born from familiarity.
Lust or love. Any combination of any of the above. The list goes on and on.
I have EFT clients who WANT to want sex with their partner. Yet something stands in the way. The lack of sex is blamed on stress. Schedules. Kids. Lack of desire/ hormones. Body image challenges. (Am I really desirable? I have x, y, or z wrong with my body. If my partner desires me… they must be crazy!) Feelings of duty, anger, frustration, disconnection, shame, or memories of trauma haunt the bedroom.
Emotional Freedom Techniques (a.k.a. EFT or Tapping) Can Help You Desire AND Enjoy Sex!
Most sexual dysfunction has an emotional root. Even when lack of desire, lack of orgasm, premature ejaculation, or body response challenges seem hormonal or physically related, clearing emotions, trauma, shame, guilt, fear, and/or belief systems can restore optimal sexual drive, and performance. EFT can restore your enjoyment–or allow you to find it if you haven’t before!
Your Bedroom is Your Business
It doesn’t matter what you want your sex life to look like. Heck, maybe all you want is healthy touch and an opportunity to cuddle. Perhaps a connection needs to be built or rebuilt before sex is even on the table. Maybe you are trying to learn your own body through masturbation and are still having challenges. Healing so you can find satisfaction, whether with self or other, is all possible with EFT.
Let’s Have an Honest Chat
Some people are still trying to figure out their own body and what they want (and don’t) in the bedroom. Maybe what you want is the courage to talk to your partner about curiosities, explorations, deeper desires or fantasies. Perhaps you just want the courage and words to gently educate another on what you like.
When’s the last time you were in an emotional funk? Looking at past situations that still make us emotional–angry, sad, frustrated, scared, etc–can be liberating. Avoiding healing can put us into a temporary funk until we choose to get rid of the old and embrace the new.
Always more self to explore
No matter how much work I do on myself and clearing old patterns, beliefs, and messages, it seems there is always a way to explore more deeply. It’s really rewarding!
Take for example, family relationships. I come from an amazing supportive family, but I still created beliefs of I’m not good enough and I have to work hard to be loved when I was a child. Emotional Freedom Techniques (a.k.a EFT or tapping), homeopathy, and the Hoffman Process have all been instrumental in changing that.
Some people aren’t as lucky. I have many women come for EFT tapping with a history of abuse, physical or emotional abandonment, and/or neglect. These powerful, strong women learn to move through their past and embrace their power, strength, and joy. Whereas holidays used to be torturous, they are now peaceful.
For some, death has separated family and created unexpected loneliness and grief. Others avoid family at all costs. Many choose their own family.
Family patterns influence relationships
We develop most of our beliefs before the age of five or six (or seven or eight, depending on what aspect of the brain we are discussing.) Our subconscious minds are programmed through identifying positive and negative things and then creating associations and emotions for each. For example, we absorb and mimic our parents and caretakers. Second, we have our own experience of how we are treated and cared for. We observe the world with different brain waves and an inability to use logic. What we are immersed in and exposed to informs what and who we become.
Our beliefs sneak in unwittingly
You have to work hard to be successful. I’m not good enough. Money doesn’t grow on trees. That’s stupid=I’m stupid. You are too old to act like that. Children should be seen and not heard. Others are more important than me. I am always wrong. People only want me for sex. Men should act like x. Women should act like y. Boys don’t cry. Women are weak. Poor people are/rich people are z. I need to act like or be __ to be loved.
These beliefs are insidious and sneaky. They define how you interact with relationships, money, society, food and alcohol, and yourself.
It can seem overwhelming
I’ve been doing healing work with myself and practitioners for 20 years. I’ve learned where my triggers are, why they are happening, and how to communicate clearly. Empathy has become easier. When others are hiding or reacting out of fear I can usually feel that. People have different views because of these beliefs. Individuals are often suffering inside, trying to find joy and happiness when these beliefs are telling them that they don’t GET to be happy.
Happiness and joy
My process of becoming joyful was not always fun. Finding joy does not mean I become perfectly neutral and never experience anger. That is an interesting concept some people, especially those wanting to travel a path towards enlightenment, seem to think is ideal. There is a wheel of emotions, and health to me means being able to access any of them.
In my opinion, the marker of emotional health is the ability to see a situation for what it is and how it makes you feel so you can respond to it and move through it. Denying emotion or pretending you are a positive person thus cannot (or should not) feel anger can be extremely damaging.
For example, I have a friend who used to say he never got angry. What he has realized over time is that he suppresses anger because he learned that anger=violence. So for self-preservation, he made a conscious choice to never feel anger.
Instead, those emotions were stored in his body. Those emotions created physical symptoms.
What does that mean? My best self is aware, awake, and happy. It means I make choices from clarity and confidence instead of reactivity and fear. Talk to me if you want to hear more. Or, join one of my classes on Eventbrite.
Free Tapping Class for Loneliness
I am holding a free 4-week class on tapping for loneliness. You will learn to tap for yourself, AND how to apply these principles for all stresses in your life. Plus, the class is recorded so you can watch it anytime + go back to them. Contact me via Direct message, email, or text, and I will let you know when the final dates are scheduled..
Are you experiencing high levels of emotional stress? When you think about a situation from the past, do you feel anger, grief, or sadness? Are you concerned about the future and find your mind wandering to the “what ifs”? If so, this technique is for you.
What is EFT Tapping?
Emotional Freedom Techniques (a.k.a. tapping) is a group of techniques scientifically-proven to help neutralize emotions and decrease stress hormones in the body by tapping on specific acupressure points while focusing on your personal situations. It creates a sense of calm so you can approach situations with clarity, confidence, and personal choice. Once you learn this tool, you can also do your own work in everyday situations if you choose, empowering yourself to move through turmoil and emotional upheaval and embrace happiness and grounded presence.
I am offering discounted sessions for those who want monthly help and accountability. To receive these sessions at a discount, sign up below via paypal to subscribe. For only $95 ($30 savings per session) you receive one 50-60 minute online EFT Session. These sessions are non-transferrable and must be used within a calendar month. All normal cancellation and no-show policies apply.
The mind and body are interconnected in ways that sometimes we don’t even understand. You and I will explore what is happening physically, mentally, emotionally, and the impact it is making currently on your life. What we want to do is understand how the mind and body are patterning NOW. Then I use a variety of techniques along with homeopathic remedies to help the body and mind shift where it is stuck so it can heal.
A History of Homeopathy
Homeopathy is practiced in many areas around the world, and has over 200 years of history helping people-both in conjunction with traditional medicinal practices (which I do not do) and as it’s own service. Homeopathic remedies allow the veil of dis-ease to be lifted from you so you true self can come forward in all forms. I recommend at least 5 follow-ups after the initial intake, spaced no more than 4 weeks apart, depending on your circumstance and commitment to your own healing process.
($125/50-60 minutes) In these sessions we evaluate the action of the remedies, work with beliefs or strong emotions that are still stuck, and plan the next course of action. Follow ups can be done weekly to keep your process moving in a strong forward direction. We may use EFT, Bach flower essences, PSYCH-K®, or other tools to support the current action of your remedy.
Life can be stressful at times physically, mentally, and emotionally. During this session we talk briefly about what you are looking to achieve, and see if the services I offer are a good fit for you. If so, we set a few targets/goals to measure your healing progress and to make sure we stay on track.
I have over 20 years of experience working in the healing profession, and use tools and services such as homeopathy, Bach flower essences, Emotional Freedom Techniques (tapping), and subconscious belief work such as PSYCH-K® to help you get unstuck and reclaim health and happiness. In this session we will talk in-depth about what your concerns are, and explore what tools, services, and resources will be beneficial for you to help you move forward in life!
Contact me directly for appointments in Red Wing or Minneapolis
Deep Tissue Massage
($175/60 minutes, $215/90 minutes)
($125/60 minutes, $175/90 minutes)
This light yet powerful work helps release restrictions in the soft tissues of the brain and spinal cord, as well as the related tissues. It also works with emotions and memories patterned into the body and nervous system, and helps them gently release.
often use tools such as dialoguing work to help you access the deeper knowledge
of the body so you can find clarity and heal. I was trained through the
Upledger Institute, and have found this work to help people recover from a
variety of discomforts, including muscular restrictions, feelings of being
“stuck” or “tight” in the body, as well as emotional stress. There are currently
studies being done on the effectiveness of helping recovery from a variety of
For an explanation of CranioSacral directly from the founder, click HERE . This site also has articles on research on CST.
Visceral Manipulation Services
Massage that releases organs and scar tissue
($125/60 minutes, $175/90 minutes)
The quality of your organ movement influences how the rest of your body moves and feels.
Organs can get stuck together and restricted the same way that muscles can get knotted up and tight! I begin the session by listening closely to where the body is wrapping itself around physical or emotional restrictions in the abdomen and pelvis. I then use a series of gentle techniques to release the stuck areas and help return the organs to balance and function. Often people experience relief of symptoms that they thought were related to muscles, their back, or an undiagnosed disease.
This gentle yet powerful hands-on service involves working with the client’s body in many different positions, including seated, sidelying, and face-up on the massage table. I strongly recommend wearing comfortable shorts or pants that can be pulled down to the pubic bone, as well as a sports bra or something similar for women.
HERE you can find an overview on visceral work, as well as the Ricky Williams Concussion Program, and how they are measuring physical and emotional changes in formerly concussed athletes using a combination of CST & Visceral on sports athletes.
Multi-Modal Bodywork Services
($125/60 minutes, $175/90 minutes)
type of “massage” uses the most intuition and follows your body’s internal
signals the most closely. It combines
all of my knowledge, training, and skills I have been gaining since my first
alternative medicine class in 1995. We
allow the body to guide the session.
Not all massage is the same
If you are not attaining the progress you seek from traditional massage therapy, there may be more at work than you realize. Firstly, emotions and cellular memory can create restrictions in your body. Secondly, emotions and cell memory can create discomfort in your organs and muscle tissues. Thirdly, emotions are stored in the body tissues.
The work I do on the massage table goes far beyond traditional Swedish massage. I listen from the top of your head to feel where the body is holding onto stress in gravity. Next, I apply a combination of massage techniques designed to release adhesions, restrictions, or points of stress throughout your body.
I use a variety of techniques, allowing me to be very flexible with pressure while adapting to your requests, which allows me to customize each session specifically. Often the most powerful sessions for clients are usually ones in which we let the body determine what kind of work it needs that day.
I Help Women Increase Intimacy
My passion is to help women and community leaders deepen levels of connection and trust in personal and social relationships with consensual touch and to find more intimacy in their personal lives through emotional healing.
I am taking advanced EFT tapping training to help you find your soulmate. It is possible. I know an 82-year old who found hers with this work. First, we work with healing your emotions in past relationships. Second, I help you identify your key characteristics for a soulmate. Third, we work with the part of the ego that says it is not possible. Schedule your free Health & Healing Strategy Session to learn how.